My 21 Day Journey
Sixteen years ago, I was in a really bad place.
Between a divorce and the global financial crisis, I lost everything. I was starting from scratch; with a pre-funded startup and a little girl I was raising on my own.
I put every minute into being a dad and working on my company. My life got very small.
I started having anxiety attacks and experiencing depression. My health deteriorated. I got addicted to sleeping pills, and I was self-medicating with alcohol.
I was desperately searching for a way to get unstuck.
I heard about a 21 Day gratitude challenge and decided to go all-in. For the next three weeks, I made mental notes of each moment I was grateful for, then wrote them down at the end of the day. After just one week, it became easier to recognize these moments.
By the end of 21 days, I had become more optimistic, energized, and happier.
That inspired me to try another 21 Day challenge. I liked the idea of going deep on something outside of my normal day-to-day but in the safe container of a three-week experiment.
Each time, I refined my process until I had dozens of spreadsheets with data on these new habits, systems, and experiences.
I got really good at setting up a framework to have a singular, near-obsessive focus that wasn’t only about learning or theory but also a deep experiential component.
I did this for productivity, mental health, fitness, business, relationships, parenting, and personal growth in the coming years.
And it completely changed my life.
21 Days of no drinking → a decade of sobriety
21 Days of reading to my kids → deepened relationships
21 Days of new morning routines → reshaped my entire day
21 Days of work experiments → seven figure businesses
21 Days of (many) dating experiments → happily married + kiddos
I continue these experiments to this day.
My Background
I was born in San Francisco to hippy artist parents. Combined with growing up in Silicon Valley’s inflection point, it makes sense that I ended up doing so much work at the intersection of art and technology. But that’s not where I started.
My first job was in a Bay Area health food store. As an underweight, bullied kid, I became obsessed with the shop’s fitness magazines and the promise of superhuman strength from all the supplements.
I started weight training and eating obsessively. I gained 50 lbs of muscle in my first year. I was hooked. My next few jobs revolved around being a meathead and progressed from there into an odd journey:
Tons of jobs I hated in varying degrees
↳ Including but not limited to construction, a moving company, working security, and unloading UPS trucksMale dance troupe (yup, a stripper like Magic Mike)
↳ Seemed like a reasonable way to finance the bodybuilding and get over being shy and introverted.Certified personal trainer
↳ I did this for five years until I became injured, which made me rethink how to make money.Investment bank
↳ I did this for less than a year. It made unloading boxes feel like a joy. Not for me.Robotics
↳ This started my 25 relationship with technology. I worked in factory automation with clients like Boeing, IBM, Tesla, Kimberly Clark, and Intel.Full-time dad
↳ I took time from work to care for my toddler daughter. It was one of the best years of my life.Harcos Labs - energy drink & snack company (exit)
↳ Thus began my entrepreneurial journey with one of my best friends (and co-founder of Masterclass).ShowOff - Television betting platform (exit)
↳ We started with wondering how the series Breaking Bad would end and wrote 75 possible outcomes for the final season.Vouch - Social recommendation mobile app
↳ We wanted a way to share and save recommendations for media, food, products, and services.SPARK6 Agency
↳ Designs and develops websites, mobile apps, and custom software
Today
After living in Santa Monica, CA for eighteen years, I am now in Salt Lake City, Utah. I continue to run SPARK6 agency, consult for product and innovation, and create content.
I’m a 3x father, and it’s how I like to spend most of my free time. I either weight train, cycle (road, gravel, and mountain), or practice yoga 6-7x a week. I continue to do 21 day experiments - and I never plan on stopping.